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November 25th: Hosted Play Space, PreParty Workshop and Escape Game!


APEX is proud of our hosted play space and preparty workshops! While we are very excited for what 2018 brings, we’ve still got a lot happening this year!

November 25th Brings us a PreParty Workshop on Violet Wand Etching! Learn how some simple tools can create amazing art!

Same Party…Hosted Play Space with Mummification! In the Downstairs Play Room we will have everything you need to do a super fun mummification and RunnerDan will be in attendance if you need any help!

We will also be doing a baked potato bar! We will bring potatoes and some traditional fixings, but we are counting on you to bring whatever fun things you can come up with!

There will also be an opportunities for you to play in our Escape the Dungeon Game! Click here to book the game.

RSVP On and tell your friends you are coming!

Preparty Workshop on Violet Wand Etching
APEX Party with Hosted Mummification



APEX Halloween Party: Saturday, October 28, 2017 · 8:00 PM – 2:00 AM


A fun filled evening of surprises! Performance art, costumes, great food, and prizes!

A costume contest for most creative, sexiest, funniest, and most outrageous.

Please bring a share food! There will be a contest for the best Halloween themed goodie!

There will be a door prize from one of your favorite local vendors, and a raffle for some interesting treats…and tricks!

Don’t miss this opportunity to see what all the fuss has been about! It will be a magical evening!

This is a themed costume party, but everyone is welcome. Your regular Dungeon Party activities will be available!


$15 for Pay Per Event Members, FREE for All Access Members

While we will remain open until 2am, the doors will close at 11pm so our Volunteers can enjoy the party as well. If you can’t get there before 11pm, please make special arrangements via email:

To Learn More about APEX Membership Please visit the website:

*Please note: You must be a member at least 24 hours PRIOR to this event to attend. No orientations will be done at this event.


RSVP Here (Not Required For Attendance)


October 27th: APEX Volunteer Drive and Social 7pm-9pm


APEX is focusing some efforts into getting YOU more involved in our club.

Tonight is a great opportunity to do that.

We will share with you our structure, ways you can participate, and things you can do to put your stamp on your club.

This is a social occasion. You will get some information, meet some people, and learn more about the Arizona Power Exchange, the Valley’s Premier source of BDSM Education, Social Opportunities, Support, and fun!

You must be an APEX (or reciprocal) member in order to attend an APEX party. This is legal stuff, sorry all! You can learn more about being a Member of the Arizona Power Exchange on our Membership Page.

Please RSVP HERE. (Not Required for attendance)


September is National Consent Month!


Partnering with the NCSF, the Arizona Power Exchange is proud to bring you Consent Month!

Please visit the Consent Month Website for contests, merchandise, ideas, and free stuff as we all discuss consent in a positive way!

AT APEX, we focus on consent all month long including…

PEX sponsors [Consent Month][] and focuses on consent the entire month of September!

**Here are some things you might be interested in to support affirmative consent:**

Monday, September 4th STATE OF CONSENT with Susan Wright of the NCSF


Monday, September 11, 2017 Consensual Non-Consent: Reality vs. Fantasy

Wednesday, September 13, 2017 APEX 303: SKILLS – BLOODBORNE PATHOGENS

Friday, September 15, 2017 Consent Themed Photos

Saturday, September 16, 2017 APEX Pre-Party Workshop: Informed Consent in Casual & Pick-up-Play

Monday, September 18, 2017 Consent at APEX

Saturday, September 23, 2017 APEX 29th Anniversary Presentations: Honoring our Volunteersncluding a consent presentation!

Monday, September 25, 2017 Master/slave dynamics and consent

Visit the APEX Calendar for more information!

Got Consent?


2017 APEX Kink Karnival: November 11th 10am-4pm


The Kink Karnival is an amazing collection of vendors, demonstrations, performances, and fun! Learn more about the Arizona Power Exchange, The Valley’s Premier Source for BDSM education, social opportunities, and support. Learn about Lifestyle Organizations in our Valley, see demonstrations provided by our Members and Vendors, meet like-minded people, and see the largest collection of quality vendors assembled in Arizona.

Calling all vendors, artisans, and crafters! If you’d like a spot at the 2017 Kink Karnival, you can fill out the Vendor Form. We have a cap for vendors, and we limit the number of ‘like’ vendors, so do this early!

Saturday, November 11th, 2017 10am-4pm

Tell your friends you are attending the 2017 APEX Kink Karnival Event
Facebook Event

Want to Participate?  Click below:

As a Vendor
As a Demo
As a Community Group

Just want to know what’s happening?

Learn more about the Kink Karnival:

If you are a member of APEX you can get a discount on the KK and Party for purchasing your tickets in advance! *You must be an APEX Member prior to the KK to attend the party.

All Access members get into the party for FREE!

To Stay up to date on the latest about the 2017 Kink Karnival Visit the Kink Karnival Webpage! 


What to Expect at a Saturday Night Party


APEX has party every Saturday night (providing it doesn’t fall ON a holiday we are typically closed) that is open to every current member of the club.

When you arrive you will be greeted by a Door Volunteer (don’t forget to thank them for volunteering!) and checked in. Grab a name tag. We offer name tags that include space to write your name and your preferred pronouns. Help people to successfully interact with you by letting them know your preferences!

After the housekeeping is done, most people move on to the kitchen. Like in our homes, the kitchen is the hub of activity at APEX. If you have brought a share-food to the party, you can put that out when you arrive. Except for special events (watch our group and the Calendar for special events) party attendees are responsible for managing the food spread.  Helping clean up as we go makes a big difference!

If you need to drop off your toy bag there are racks to store them in both the Voyeur Room (just North of the front office) and also the vestibule that leads to the play floor (just North of the kitchen).

There are typically lots of people talking and socializing in the kitchen. As always, the best advice is to just jump in and enjoy the company of members close to you. At parties, maintaining situational awareness is important. If a big group of people is talking, just jump in and introduce yourself. If people have their heads together and are quietly talking, best to leave them be.

Remember, for some people, their “scene” begins when they arrive (or leave the house, or finish dinner), so they aren’t being rude, they are just doing their thing!

You can go to any of the Voyeur spaces to watch what is going on.  We encourage you to walk around and have a look, it is one of the most special things about having APEX parties! Please be mindful when you are watching scenes. Example…there is no reason to open the doors upstairs to watch (glass doors), and when you enter a space make sure you aren’t interrupting a scene.

For tips on how to be a non-interfering spectator read this. 

If you want to play, you can just ask (Click Here To Read More About How To Ask). Your DM can help you find space, give you tips on setting up based on your play choices, and help you with cleaning when you are finished. Remember, our DM’s are there to help make sure you and everyone else has the best time possible. They are a resource, and don’t be afraid to ask for help!

Before you go, please help clean up. A run through the kitchen or bathrooms is very helpful for those volunteers who have to stay until 2am. If you are there late, ask the closing DM how you can help them get out of there.

Parties are the cornerstone of the APEX Social structure, and being a great member includes being a part of your club. To read more about how to volunteer, click here.


Did you know…About APEX Education?


Did you know there are lots of educational programs at APEX, making up more than 200 events each year?


Monday’s: On Monday Nights (since 1997) we have some sort of Educational Event. Class, Demo, Lecture, Hands-On, Panel Discussion, Community Education, and even an occasional open house. Some of these are open to everyone over 18 because APEX feels as though Education is important for all parts of the Phoenix Community!  These educational events are generally facilitated by APEX Members, or an occasional out of town presenter. If you are interested in presenting please email:

E.D.G.E. Groups:  Extended Development, Growth, & Education (E.D.G.E.). An E.D.G.E. group is made up of APEX members who all share a common interest in learning, teaching, and developing skills. This is a peer-to-peer learning environment that facilitates practice and sharing knowledge in a particular area. There are currently 12 E.D.G.E. Groups at APEX: Safer Sex, Makers, Pets, Rope 101, Leather Care, Floggers, Impact Play, Drums, Bound to Tie, Medical Play, Presenting, and Photography.

E.D.G.E. Groups are open to all APEX members who would like to join. If you are interested in beginning an E.D.G.E. group, please e-mail

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Weekend Workshops/Intensive’s: Are generally out of town presenters who do a variety of classes throughout the weekend. Sometimes it is on a single subject, sometimes it is separate classes. These are all structured differently, and attention should be paid to the schedule and pricing.  If you have a weekend workshop/intensive you would like to share with the APEX Membership please email:

Preparty Workshops: Preparty Workshops are designed to teach you some skills you can use tonight at the party! A fun and interactive environment where we can all sharpen our skills together! This is not a classroom environment-no lectures here! These are interactive and high energy sessions so you can get ready to party! You may attend the preparty workshop for an additional fee, but it is included in your party entrance fee. Like most programming Preparty Workshops are offered at no additional costs for All Access Members.

APEX 101: Skills: The APEX 101 series is an introduction to specific skills. Come learn the basics of these skills. These classes are for beginners, those new to a particular kind of play, or someone wanting a ‘sampling’ of the possibilities and intended to make you comfortable with the general premise of the chosen fetish.

The APEX 101 series is designed to be a fun and interactive environment. You will get an overview of the evening, and then you can spend your time learning about the things you are interested in! This is an opportunity to ask questions, see up close how things work and in some cases even try those things!

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APEX 202: Skills: Welcome to the next phase of your evolution. You may have taken the 101, or maybe you’ve watched other people do it, or you’ve even tinkered a bit yourself.

At the  APEX 202’s you will practice a variety of techniques, and a wider exposure will allow you to take your skills to the next level! The APEX 202 series are designed to be a fun and interactive environment. You will get an overview of the evening, and then you can spend your time doing the things you are interested in! This is sometimes also an opportunity to see many different ways to do what we do, and decide which one is right for you! This is an opportunity to ask questions, see up close how things work, and most importantly, PRACTICE!

For questions please email:
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APEX 303: Skills: Continue your Education with the APEX 303’s. The APEX 303 is designed to provide an advanced education on various topic. Everyone is welcome, but often the skills are advanced and some basic knowledge is required. Each event will call out what you will want to know or possess ahead of time. For questions please email:

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Keep your eyes on our webpage,,, and for more information about the value APEX brings to our community!


How to Ask Someone To Play


You can make asking someone to play very complex, but really it is fairly easy. There are a number of ways to go about this, and here we will offer some tips and approaches to help you.

The most important thing is to make sure that you are honest about your experience. Please don’t think that being new or inexperienced takes you out of the play pool, quite the opposite! New folks get the most play because they are willing to ASK!

We live and die by our reputations, and exaggerating your experience will not get you very far. An experienced top or bottom will know if you have exaggerated your experience, and word travels, so be honest, and set your partner(s) expectations appropriately. It is perfectly acceptable to say “I have never done this before, but I would like to try it”, or “Hey, I just got a new X and I would like to get great at it, want to help me?”.

Approaching people can be intimidating, but remember…at APEX “No” only means “No”. Learning to hear “No” in a positive and constructive way is one of the best lessons we receive at APEX.  It is important that we accept that as a final answer and move on. We don’t coerce, cajole, or intimidate people into doing what we want at APEX. That is predatory behavior that is not acceptable. Hear “No” as unequivocal and final. The absence of “No” is not “Yes”. Only “Yes” means “Yes”.  Consent is the most important thing that we do at APEX, and each of us is responsible for obtaining consent.

Once you obtain agreement or interest in principle, it is important that you negotiate the boundaries of consent. If you have attended APEX 101: Communication and Negotiation, you have the tools to do this. If not, make sure you take the class, or get a Lifeguard or Spotter to help you negotiate. This is a person who has a bit more experience who is willing to help you ask good questions and explore your answers so you and your partner(s) are getting informed and enthusiastic consent for your scene.  Most members of the club are willing to do this, so find yourself a Lifeguard!

It is important when you negotiate that you ask how someone prefers to negotiate. For some people negotiations are part of the scene and they have a ritualized way of negotiating. If that isn’t your cup of tea it is perfectly OK, and you can just take a pass. That means you aren’t compatible. NO problem! For some people they prefer negotiations in writing, or outside of a play environment, or any number of other things.  Before you negotiate, you have to agree HOW you will negotiate.

So, if you are new to the club, new to BDSM, or new to APEX…lots of people will be willing to help you find your way. Be honest, learn from other members, and most importantly…have fun!



Being a Non-Interfering Spectator


While parties are just a small portion of what APEX does,  our behavior and consideration for other members is very important for the enjoyment of everyone attending.

Being a voyeur is a lovely way to enjoy what it is we do at APEX, but it is important that we do so in a way that does not interfere with the enjoyment of other members around us.

All of this information is from the APEX orientation. If you aren’t confident about APEX rules or etiquette, feel free to watch the video again at any time the room is not in use.

Some Guidelines to Being a Non-Interfering Spectator:

  • Stay out of play space if you are not scening, setting up to scene, or have been invited to participate (No it is not acceptable to ask someone to watch up close once they are on the play floor).
  • It is never acceptable to interrupt another member’s scene.
  • If you are uncomfortable with something that you are watching, please take responsibility, and remove yourself from the situation.
  • If you have a concern with the safety of someone else’s scene, please take it to the Dungeon Monitor on duty, and not the players.
  • Silence your cell phone, and if light pollution is an issue, dim the screen.
  • Don’t point your cell phone camera at people.
  • Keep your conversations to a low volume to prevent interfering with scenes near you.
  • Keep a reasonable distance from scenes.
  • Commentary on another member’s play without being asked, either complimentary or critical is always inappropriate.
  • Remember, scenes take priority over socializing. Keep socializing to social spaces.

It takes all of us to make APEX the special place it has come to be. Please be mindful and considerate of other members, and make sure to help other members as well. If someone forgets something, gently and politely remind them. If someone reminds you of something you have forgotten, thank them for making sure you are being the best member you can be!


July 8th Party: Important Notice about Parking


As you may have heard our parking lot is going to be resurfaced on July 8th, and we can’t drive on it until Sunday. So, the generous folks at the big white building to the South of us, have agreed to let us use their parking lot.

Walking on the pavement after 6 PM is allowed, and wheeled toy bags should be fine. We do have permission – for the night of July 8th only – to park around the building to the southeast of APEX (the area outlined in yellow on the map). Otherwise, you’ll need to park on the street (the purple shading).

If you are coming to the party and willing to help direct traffic that would be amazing! Email us at and we will put you on the schedule. There will be frozen treats for the volunteers who are out in the heat!

We will need help from 7:30pm-11pm when the doors close.

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