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Below are some resources for those of you who are new to APEX, or new to BDSM/Kink.  We have included where to find things on our webpage as well as some outside resources.

What is APEX?

APEX is a private, 501(c)7 membership club entirely operated by the membership of APEX.  As a volunteer organization, 100% of our proceeds go right back into the club, and every part of our structure is transparent to our membership. Our club culture is about getting out what you put in, and most people find a way to volunteer that they enjoy. To learn more about volunteering, click here.

Who are APEX Members?

APEX Members are a diverse collection of people from all walks of life, orientations, nationalities, genders, ages, and lifestyle choices.  The magic of APEX is that there is no “mold” you must adhere to in order to join.  We all follow the same rules, and we all support other members in their choices. At any given time there are 700-900 members at APEX and approximately 350 you will see on a regular basis.

Becoming a Member has links to everything you need to know about our membership and pricing structure as well as the process to becoming a new member including What you need to bringThe ProcessIf You Would Like More Information Before Joining,
Membership and Orientation Opportunities, and Membership Options.

The APEX Calendar will show you Orientations as well as all of the events we have in a given month. APEX has over 500 events each year, you are sure to find things that interest you. A guide to  the various classes, events, and attendance opportunities can be found at About APEX Events.

APEX on Social Media: You can find APEX on,, and Below are the pages if you prefer to copy/paste instead of click. is a social networking sight for kinky people. You can find lots of good information there to help you on your way.

What to wear to APEX? There is a post How To Dress.

Events for those new to APEX or New to BDSM:

  • Dungeon 101: An Introduction to Play Parties and some cultural information to help you feel more comfortable.
  • APEX Skills 101: An introduction to specific skills/information
  • APEX Skills 202: A hands-on workshop where you try specific skills.
  • APEX 303: Skills: Edgier subjects
  • New Member Social: A social opportunity for those new to the club who would like to get to know some folks who are also new. You will get some handy information about events and culture as well.

You can also see a guide to APEX Programming on our ABOUT APEX EVENTS Page. 

To learn what to expect at a Saturday Night Party, Click Here.

How to be a Non-Interfering Spectator

We hope this information has helped you feel more comfortable with APEX and with your choice to be interested in BDSM.  After you have read through all of this, if you still have questions please email: and someone will get back to you within one (1) day.

Welcome to APEX, and we look forward to meeting you.

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